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Memphis Area Master Gardeners by memphisareamastergardeners.org

Students will come away with a plan for their personal garden.

We will have some select hellebores for sale after the lecture.

The presentation focuses on how to deal with animals that share our backyard.

Learn how to have a productive vegetable garden and brilliantly colored flower garden.

Gardeners and volunteers customize the tours for walk through or hands-on for school age children with adult supervision and adults of all ages.

Bring a dish or appetizer for a chance to win 1 of 3 door prizes that are herb inspired from the apothecary of one of our herb members.

Pick young flowers, put them in water and bring them in to get some tips about exhibiting your favorite blooms to their best advantage.

Tim specializes in development and introduction of new plant varieties.

Before and after the talk, bid on horticultural consultations, gardening prizes, and other unique silent auction items with an earthy twist.

Their breeding work with the double forms has sparked national interest.

With a little know how, a water source and a few flexible pipes, you can have beautiful gardens all summer long without “toting” a watering can all hours of the day.

Daffodils whose names are not known are welcome in the ‘just for fun’ section.

He is an active plant breeder with over fifty plant patents to his name including fifteen hydrangeas.

Edible plants combine form and function and allow you to reap the health and economic benefits of growing your own food.

Новости by factorial33.ru

But former military top brass and ruling party legislators had criticized the aircraft for lacking stealth capabilities.

Wednesday’s report did not look at costs of implementingrecommendations.

So, you use minimal energy to extract maximum nutrition in the form of micronutrients and macronutrients.

He also strenuously resisted calls for a regulatory crackdown on the derivatives market which could arguably have helped prevent the banking crisis.

Watch the video to see how the boy made the flight without a ticket or boarding pass.

Broccoli makes the list because it’s one of nature’s most nutrient-dense foods, with only 30 calories per cup.

Through a practice called “private re-homing,” parents market their unwanted kids online and pass them along to others ГўВЂВ“ quickly, often illegally, and almost always without consequence for the adults.

But it may be the sound of space’s silence – also expertly employed – that is actually most riveting.

Lischewski said, saying the worldpopulation was rising and many fish stocks were at maximumyields.

For pain relief he turned to laudanum, and when he became addicted he tried to wean himself off it by injecting morphine.

Fortunately we’re having the ball bounce our way this year.

Another hundred million still owed to a guy who’s calcifying in front of our eyes.

Police are working with his parents to arrange the trip home.

Now everyone’s acting like they don’t remember and it just happened a year ago.

Sure, that act cause a whole lot of drama back then, but look how far they’ve come: they’re married, with two children.

We can see how our favorite doctors h ave grown, changed, and matured over the years.

A superfood is easy to find in the grocery store, contains nutrients that are known to enhance longevity and has other health benefits that are backed by peer-reviewed, scientific studies.

Aiken Seventh Day Adventist Church Website by aikensda.org

I have multiple health issues, including a month- long bleed that is draining my mental and physical energy.

I have a polyp and thickened endometrium, and treatment is likely to be very expensive.

You promised to be the justification and returner for our cause when we ask.

They are giving me the same runaround, only bigger and worse.

Pray that the boat ride this afternoon will be blessed and a blessing for all who attend.

The enemy sent people in the home to disturb their sleep repeatedly.

I didn’t have much of either before the month’s bleeding, and the bleeding makes it worse.

I looked up the difference, and fibroids are muscular tissue growths while polyps are mucous and endometrial tissue growths.

Both polyps and fibroids, especially small ones like mine, often go away on their own, but surgery is often done to remove them to stop bleeding or if they are large or preventing fertility (they don’t always).

Let no evil force have any power over me or to block any of my request.

That we may live peaceful and quiet lives in all godliness and holiness.

I took vacation time to work in some ministry instead of rest, and then had to take excess sick leave.

I sit and imagine this over and over until it happens, with every guy my whole life.

I almost routinely make more calls/ attempts than all my co- workers, and have had times when my total surveys on a day were the top or near the top.

Fatigue and frequent obstructions have made it the opposite now, at work.

I rode out to the site to view the finished work up to this point.

We then drove around the area to get an idea of what kinds of neighborhoods there were to be better able to do the canvassing that needs to be done.

When rested, they are fine, but not when sleep is disturbed.

How Not To Let Annoying People Annoy You by positivesharing.com

They go out of their way to be polite, they help if they can and they truly care about the well-being of people around them.

If the person sitting next to you in a bar is annoying, you can get up and leave.

In most cases you’re more likely to want to stay and resolve the issue.

You will also be less affected by any petty annoyances.

Try some of these thoughts, the next time someone or something really gets your goat at work.

If you can stay calm, you’re more likely to choose constructive actions.

The problem is that the memory becomes so strong that it keeps coming back to you and keeps annoying you for years.

Hating them is really a waste of time – feel sorry for them instead.

Few things annoy us more than other people displaying the same weaknesses and faults as we fear we have ourselves.

This is not about being meek and humble and never complaining about the mistakes that others make.

And in most situations, keeping your cool is better for you, and produces better results.

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They just channel that energy and apply a bit of creativity to it.

For example, let’s say you have a romantic partner who’s been faithful but you cheat on him/her and they confront you.

I know it’s a long stretch but the point is the truth in your saying that sometimes it is your fault and being calm about it pisses people off.

It may contribute to escalating the situation but then again it may not.

There is study out there that basically claims that the basis for the proverb “what goes around, comes around” is a combination of this negative emotion “transfer” process and the six degrees of separation theory.

We simply don’t know enough scientifically about human nature to draw such conclusions.

So don’t sweat it and say “i’m sorry” and “thank you” as often as you can.

Of course, there are always going to be other possibilities and you will have to use your best judgment at any given moment.

It is something you do to yourself, not something someone else does to you.

Keying your co-worker’s car is illegal and will land you in a pot of hot water if you get caught.

Make sure it is dark, desserted, and you’ve planned your getaway.

Just be careful and use gloves when handling the caustic chemicals.

Whatever you decide to do, in my opinion #1 and #12 are the most important.

We are told that angry people are dangerous and taught to fear them and loathe them.

I know that this will come off as cynical, but to those who doubt my sincerity, just remember that those wonderful forefathers of ours who built our society were very often angry men and women.

They were taking their revenge, so their anger was engaged and focused.

I don’t have all the answers, but here is my humble suggestion.

If it’s a boy, throw your chest out and walk like a woman as you show him the fine piece of ass that will never be his.

A beautiful body is gift, and it’s not that hard to look good.

The person that is annoying me is not intentionally doing anything wrong.

I am really just fed up with seeing and hearing her day after day.

You need to ignore this dumbass and the chicks at school, so you can focus on school.

You write like a 6th grader – misspelled words and bad grammar – and you cuss like a low life.

You need a parent who loves you enough to beat the bejeezuz out of your egotistical ass and take your pride down a notch or two.

This is a clear case where you are the problem, not your enemy.

My experience with girls is that when one seriously criticizes you, you had better pay attention, because her advice will make you a better man and you’ll get more of what you want when you change yourself.

You have your priorities all wrong and you therefore have an excess of anger and hatred that will haunt you well into your future.

Yes, there are inconsiderate, annoying jerks out there sure, but they are a minority.

If your cab driver is a jerk, you can get off and take another cab – odds are you’ll never see him again.

With that in mind, here are some strategies that can help you become less annoyed on the job.

This is why some people can remember every little detail of that incident 8 years ago where some jerk cut them off on the highway.

If a person really, really ticks you off, maybe that person is just making you think about some weak sides you’d rather not admit you have.

Don’t read too much into it when people do inconsiderate things.

This is about not getting angry over annoying people, because getting angry is rarely good for you.

It can be exactly what’s needed to unlock a tight situation.

And if you want more great tips and ideas you should check out our newsletter about happiness at work.

I agree 100% with you that most of the time staying calm in the face of a fuming opponent drives them even madder.

Sometimes, people are rightly pissed and this kind of statement can drive them over the edge.

Getting annoyed and scratching the annoyer’s car in the parking lot obviously hurts them as well, if only on a superficial level.

Basically very soon, the shit you gave people you knew comes right back to you.

Your best bet is probably to realize that the vast majority of events in your life is ruled by luck.

I love people and enjoy helping others, but for some reason there are some people that simply say crule and and unkind thangs to get me upset.

Dreaming of revenge is a mental exercise that etches bad feelings into your brain.

Revenge has to come in a form that you won’t be punished for later on.

It’s much better to pour battery acid on the hood, so as not to set off the alarm.

Since it costs money to recycle old car batteries, you can find old batteries in alleys and along country roads.

You’ll feel like a complete idiot if you injure yourself while trying to get your revenge.

If staying calm pisses someone off, just imagine what laughing at them or engaging them in their anger will do!

Keep your weapon in your hand so you can hit them again, as needed to make them stop.

Don’t do anything you will regret later and nothing is more important than appearances.

We are trained in our present day society to attack anyone afflicted with anger.

So if you come off as an “angry person” you won’t even be given the chance to present your side of the story, and there is nothing you can do about this, so just give in.

Happy people can be fun but they can also be boring and unproductive.

I sigh loudly, roll my eyes and open my mouth as if to speak.

Hopefully this little social experiment of mine will give you some hope.

If you are in the position of being considered expendable then doing this is probably not a good idea.

The fact that people seemed to go out of their way to do this sort of thing got me to thinking that they must be getting some value out of making my life difficult or they would not be behaving in this fashion.

Began decreasing the amount of time spent making the lives of coworkers easy to see what the reaction was.

I am unable to overlook some of the qualities in her personality that make me cringe.

Some of the annoyances are that she is a brags about her family, she uses a fake lilting voice when she speaks on the phone and she tries to get me to side with her about things that bother her about other people we work with.

Any suggestions for how to alleviate the stress this is causing me?

Maybe a future in the pen can bring you down from your high and mighty ego.

As long as you have these excesses, they will find someone to direct themselves at causing you to alienate yourself further, which of course will be their fault, so you re-create more anger and hatred and the cycle goes on.

With New Players Will Li’s Entrenched System Survive? by projects.newsday.com

Whatever it costs the public, for those in power the system works.

Over the years, he said, he had invested millions renovating the castle, trying to recapture its original look.

Although the public can rent it for parties, it outranks even the man cave as a home of political muscle-flexing.

Judges are prohibited fr om politicking, so casual gatherings with party leaders offer an opportunity to get known.

Whelan was charged with second-degree assault, vehicular assault and driving while intoxicated.

The potential value created by their vote could run into the hundreds of millions of dollars.

Such zoning allows a developer to build more units than normally permitted in one area of the cluster in exchange for preserving open space in another.

Cuthbertson did not disclose those ties at the time of the town board’s vote.

He was not on an approved list of professionals established by the courts after repeated scandals involving judicial appointments of donors and cronies.

In similar instances, other judges have cited a person’s particular expertise with an unusual type of property, like a horse farm.

The fees for carrying out these functions can be substantial.

He was forbidden to serve on a nonprofit or charity for five years.

The gunman then hustles away, crouching at two points looking toward his hands and then back at the car, as a worker emerges from behind a building at the parking lot’s edge.

Russian mobsters were caught on tape chuckling about the shooting, according to a law enforcement source, but that lead went nowhere.

Burke, the police chief who headed the shooting investigation, went to federal prison in 2017 for his assault of a suspect in 2012.

He ultimately was convicted of three misdemeanors and a violation and sentenced to probation for 3 years.

Cuthbertson then sponsored the critical 2012 zoning change to allow 191 condominium units on the property, which passed unanimously.

Melius added one ally to the board but was unable to gain a majority.

It circles behind him, slows briefly and pulls out of the frame.

Next, the shooter vanishes, about 13 seconds after he first appeared.

The police department declined to respond to requests for comment.

How To Deal With Someone Inviting Themselves To Our Place by mamapedia.com

This is taking all the fun out of what was like heaven to me.

He doesn’t just flat out tell them no and it gets us in so many arguments.

We are getting ready to add on and then people will really expect to be there.

I want to be there since the builder is coming to discuss plans with us in the morning.

He figures he’s got me where he wants me right now so why stop.

All with sweetness & light in my voice while giving them hello hugs and kisses.

If you’re stuck with them this week – so be it – what can you do other than be gracious and let them know you have lots of other stuff to do.

Let her know you are happy to include them for a few weekends every summer but with the stress from work and city life you need a break with peace and quiet.

I hope you end up having your time in heaven at your get away place.

Let them know what your original plans were and that they will need to work around it.

One note about how you hate to “entertain” and have people to this house.

Just be aware that times may come when you find your peace and quiet interrupted by your kids’ guests if you keep this house, and it’ll be harder to tell the kids, no, you can’t ever bring friends here.

Sorry for the long reply, be strong, take control especially if you are adding a room.

At least that way you can sort of “plan” for it for when it’s good for you.

Tell them you want to plan ahead for a different week that will work better.

I would rather they be honest than tell me to come on over and then resent me for being there.

Then stop by to see how the work is progressing and visit for a while and then let them know you are looking forward to a nice nights sleep and you will stop by late morning to visit.

Oh sure, you can expect a huge fight with hubby, but maybe it is what he needs to wake him up and get it thru his thick he ad that you dont want company to entertain when you go to the get away place unless they are invited!

Sounds like you and your husband need to work on understanding and building boundaries.

I suggest that you not go if they’re to be there because going does not meet your needs.

You are two separate groups of people and each group is responsible only for themselves.

My parents tried to do the same thing to us but didn’t say when.

I love the quiet and sleeping in late(not the sound of boats pulling out of the driveway and car doors closing and people walking around at 5am.

I don’t think it’s right for people to horn in on our vacation spot.

We got there that night scared by a truck parked in our driveway.

He did say he tried to tell him we were busy and he said he could help and he told him there wasn’t really anything for him to help with and he still insisted because there’s good fishing up there right now.

This get-away place – did you pay for it entirely by yourself or did your inlaws help pay for it anywhere along the way?

I think the meal-bringing was more to make themselves feel better than to feed us becuase it was almost always not the kind of food we’d eat.

Tell them normally it would be so wonderful to see them but that you are exhausted, not feeling well, focused on _____ (whatever) and that you’re sorry but you don’t even know what to say.

By telling him that his parent were rude you put him on the defensive – that never works out well becuase he’ll try to defend them.

You felt hurt and responded that his parents are rude (even if you didn’t say directly that they are rude it was implied).

Of course there would be an argument – you started from separate places.

His parents are asking to be included because they might ‘miss something’.

Good people are always taken advantage of for fear of hurting other’s feelings.

I don’t know back history of all the conversations you have had with family about coming out to your place.

Then have a conversation with hubby about the “get away place houseguest rules”.

You don’t need to alienate them over this but you do need to set boundaries.

As your kids get older you will find them wanting to invite friends there, even for a day if not overnight etc.

It’s not “entertaining” every second of every day to have people to your home, but of course you don’t want a stream of uninvited guests.

I have to admit that this only became an issue after we had kids.

People do the same thing with swimming pool owners, boat owners, etc.

I think that the only way their feelings should really be hurt would be if you never invited them to your place.

I think you’re very lucky to have the luxury of a “get away place” even if you feel put upon to share it.

Then go with hubby to the cabin and after he unloads the car, you take your stuff and tell him, and his parents that its too crowded and you will be back after dinner to visit.

You can do this now, or spend a lot of weekends alone while hubby has his parents with him at the cabin.

If they choose to feel hurt it is their choice and their problem.

Doing this will be very difficult but its needed to begin to establish boundaries to separate your family and your families needs from those of your inlaws.

Sounds like his family of origin is more important that his family of you and the kids.

You don’t want to live like this the rest of your life.

Japan by wikitravel.org

Japanese culture stretches back millennia, yet has also been quick to adopt and created the latest modern fashions and trends.

The most acclaimed restaurant in the country, which costs hundreds of dollars for dinner, is a small shop located in a subway station seating less than a dozen people.

An individual that embraces a particular subculture and its fashions may alternately conform to vary different norms when working or at home, but there is little sense of conflict between these roles.

On the other hand, many are not used to dealing with foreigners (外国人 gaikokujin ) and are more reserved and reluctant to communicate.

Expect banks and museums to be closed for the entire holiday period.

Legally you can only win trinkets (from cigarette lighters up to computers) but in reality, most pachinko players opt for nondescript tokens, which they exchange off-site for cash, skirting anti-gambling laws.

Video arcades, though sometimes difficult to distinguish from pachinko parlors from the outside, have video games rather than gambling, and are often several floors high.

The upside, though, is a slew of fireworks shows (花火大会 hanabi taikai ) and festivals big and small.

Temperatures and humidity become more tolerable, fair days are common and fall colors can be just as impressive as cherry blossoms.

Winter is a good time to go skiing or hot-spring hopping, but as some buildings lack central heating, it’s often miserably cold indoors.

Late winter also has the plum blossoms which precede the cherry blossoms.

Ten days’ worth of rice in my bag; a bundle of twigs in my fireplace.

Japan is often difficult to understand for those educated in the west.

In the middle of modern skyscrapers you’ll discover sliding wooden doors which lead to traditional chambers with tatami mats, shoji screens, and calligraphy, suitable for traditional tea ceremonies.

In this way, development mostly happens in a piecemeal fashion, one building at a time, rather than in large redevelopment projects.

Shogun and his samurai warriors at the top of the heap and no social mobility permitted.

It is also wisteria and azalea season, which is extremely beautiful.

Everybody heads home to visit village graveyards, and transport is packed.

It is common to visit shrines and temples to offer coins and make silent prayers, and many homes often have a small shrine or display religious artifacts from various temples, but there is little mention of religious faith or dogma in daily life.

You will find them side by side in cities, towns, and people’s lives.

Old folks prefer singing enka ballads at small neighborhood bars.

Pachinko is a form of gambling that involves dropping little steel balls into a machine; prizes are awarded depending on where they land.

The air inside most pachinko parlors is quite harsh from tobacco smoke, sweat, and hot machinery — not to mention the ear-splitting noise.

Unlike pachinko, they attract all ages from kids to adults, and are usually clean on the inside.

Mountainous areas and those farther north have their’s earlier.

Tokyo — the capital and main financial center – modern, cosmopolitan, and very densely populated.

Marble Cake by toriavey.com

Be sure to use instant pudding mix, not cook-and-serve; just sift it in dry with the flour.

It also gives a lovely vanilla essence to the batter, which blends nicely with the almond extract.

Generously grease your loaf pan using butter or cooking spray.

Baked in 8×8 heavy (professional) pan for 52 min at 350 degrees.

Thank you so much — this will be my go-to marble cake from now on!

As you can read below many readers have had a great experience with this recipe.

Also, the pudding left a really strange artificial after taste.

Did you use cake flour (not all purpose), as recommended in the recipe?

I replaced the almond extract with vanilla, and milk with buttermilk ( always better to use with butter cakes) for fluffiness and it was really good!

Since the cake is mostly made from scratch, is there a from scratch pudding recipe that can be substituted?

I am excited to try this either way because of the outstanding reviews & the wonderful & unintimidating way you put together this recipe.

I creamed the butter with the sugar first and then added the egg one at a time, but the egg just can’t be incorporated into the butter mixture.

I still used it and baked the cake and it turns out good… but a the middle is a bit crumbly.

It sounds like it might have been slightly cold which can make it difficult to incorporate.

The cupcakes took at least a solid 15 minutes, and the cake layers took about the same time the recipe said to give.

The pudding added an awesome amount of moisture to the cake and the marbling tutorial was very helpful.

She is a very good friend of mine, so it’s important to me that it turns out well.

The cake remained popular throughout the 19th and 20th centuries.

This little trick is a fantastic way to add moisture and flavor to your cakes; it also helps to thicken the batter, which provides the perfect texture for marbling.

It creates a wonderful texture and locks in moisture so the cake doesn’t dry out as quickly.

In a small bowl, whisk together the cocoa powder and 1/3 cup of very hot water till smooth.

Whisk in the cocoa powder/water mixture till fully combined and smooth.

Pour the light and dark cake batters into your loaf pan and marble them.

Remove from the oven and cool in the pan on a wire rack for 10-15 minutes.

Appreciated your specific warnings such as precisely measuring pudding mix.

The tiers will be 6, 9, 12 & 15″ with chocolate mousse filling and butter cream frosting.

Wonder how you could make this same cake chocolate loved the texture?

Only difference was that it took a little over an hour to bake.

I made an almond glaze to go over the top and dusted with powdered sugar.

A simple chocolate or white chocolate frosting would also work well.

This is much appreciated, as most of us do not wish to purchase unusual or costly ingredients, for a recipe we may not make again.

Would that have caused the failures to incorporate the eggs?

Also, brown sugar doesn’t mix as smoothly as plain white granulated sugar.

I made it for a friend’s birthday, so it was a layered cake plus supplemental cupcakes.

Thank you so much for this absolutely fabulous recipe!

We don’t often advice doubling recipes for baking because they don’t always convert well.

I am making this for a retirement party – the guest of honor requested marble cake.

Have baked it in several different pan sizes and types and adjust accordingly.

Warning: Fair Car Leasing Is NOT A Good Deal. -: Povertyfinance by reddit.com

That’s the estimated price of the vehicle if you had a 3yr loan.

Obviously you’ll save money buying used, but leasing is not some kind of scam.

There is a fee for additional mileage when you turn the car in.

There is a fee if there is any damage done to repair it, and there is an extra fee because it was not returned undamaged.

There is a fee if you turn the car in and do not lease another car.

The purchase incentives and finance incentives for purchased cars are generally better than leased cars.

For all of the above reasons, purchasing a car outright is cheaper for the vast majority of people.

Even if leasing was cheaper than buying a car outright, buying a new car every 2-3 years is the most expensive way to own a car.

When it’s over, you don’t owe anything, you’ve paid the “rental” fee.

A person doing well in all aspects, will have enough money as backup for monthly bills and needs, and a savings, and a retirement and an “oh shit” emergency fund.

I have two cars which are the traditional keep til you have only scraps left type.

Considering that renting an apartment vs buying a home is a similar albeit a more expensive concept.

They can get a fairly new car for less than 1k upfront, maintenance included, for 6 months and once they finish and move somewhere else they can return the car with no hassles.

It’s the same stresses as a lease just different math all equaling you in debt.

Continuing your example for only 4 months, where else can you get a great car temporarily w/warranty and maintenance for four months without going over 5k and less than 1k up front?

You do not have to be absolutely destitute to be here.

The goal here is to help anyone who doesn’t have a lot of breathing room get to a place where they have stability, comfort, contingency, and maybe even a little luxury.

We get enough judgement from people who do not know our situation all the time, this sub will respect peoples right to live their lives on their terms, not condemn them from afar.

Posts advocating theft, or practices that in any way exploit or harm others (criminal or not) will be removed.

Political advocacy, debate, or grandstanding will be removed.

Anything that appears to be a scam, predatory, or downright dangerous will be removed.

No asking for handouts, soliciting private donations, or mentioning crowdfunding sites.

Even if you pay on it for 6 years (the max term) you don’t own anything at the end.

It doesn’t matter whether or not you ‘own’ the car at the end of the lease, the dealer is usually more than happy to sell you your leased car for less than the residual value.

Every hour you spend reading about finance counts towards your leveling up.

There is a purchase option fee if you end the lease and want to keep the car.

The residual is generally not negotiable, and the purchase price is generally higher for a lease.

Buying used, or buying a car and keeping it for longer than 3 years is much cheaper overall.

Also consider that almost all the wear and tear to an engine is dealt during cold-starts, so if you’re someone who does a lot of short distance commutes but not a lot of highway miles, leasing a car could be an attractive option.

Some like the reconditioning charges after turning a car in are difficult to negotiate with no way to know ahead of time.

On the other hand, there are many people out there still leasing new cars.

You used the car, and if your’e fortunate, you may have saved money in the long run, you may have even made a profit if you use it for work.

Is that enough to keep you in the car you bought to keep?

It’s a gamble any way you look at it, but a lease isn’t entirely a bad thing.

Lets say someone just recently moved to a new city for a contract job and does not own a car but does not want to commute via public transit.

This is a place for people who do not have a lot, nor ideal circumstances, to help each other get by and hopefully move up in the world.

This is not a place for politics, but rather a place to get advice on daily living and short-to-midterm financial planning.

Overtime we if/as the community develops we might start to reign in the scope this sub features.

We are here to help each other achieve their needs and wants, not to judge their priorities.

Useful subs: /r/personalfinance – a good place, especially once you have some money to play with.

Sealing Marble Shower Tile and Grout by countertopspecialty.com

Some claim it’s a must do while others say sealing showers doesn’t really serve much purpose and may cause a problem in some cases.

It depends on the stone, the location and intended use of the stone installation.

Applying a sealer is done to reduce the risk of stains in marble or stone.

The risk of staining in marble showers is near zero unless you regularly toss a salad or drink some wine in there!

Some people mistakenly believe that the reason to seal shower tile is to prevent the shower water from absorbing.

A little water may absorb into the marble or travertine tile while showering, but it quickly evaporates and does not cause any problems.

You don’t gain any real benefit by applying a sealer since your stain risk in a marble shower is minimal.

In truth, the sealer itself won’t “cause” a problem out of nothing, so don’t worry if you’ve already sealed your marble shower.

This is most often a problem on floors after a flood or from a plumbing leak.

In a shower, this could sometimes occur from water behind the tiles and not simply from water absorbed while showering.

Thus, any iron deposits within the tiles (unless near the surface) are not exposed to water long enough to oxidize or rust and stains rarely occur.

Or applying a standard quality impregnating sealer will work too but you just have to reapply it periodically.

Senguard forms permanent bonds with the stone which means you only have to seal the marble one time.

Usually, the floor tiles are most affected but you may notice the wall tiles that touch the floor become darker as well.

This occurs as the water from the floor rises up inside the wall tile.

Obviously, it would be absolutely useless to attempt to apply a sealer to a stone that can’t absorb it and doesn’t need a sealer.

Waiting 2-3 weeks after shower installation is necessary before applying a sealer to allow the stone, grout and all installation materials to dry out completely or you’ll trap water in the stone.

No need to polish marble prior to sealing unless you are repairing etch marks.

Instead of tearing out all the marble installed we are considering aborting the steam component all together.

Everyone thinks marble is “stains” easily and is super porous.

Marble “etches” easily which is a chemical burn from acids and many cleaners.

Yes, it is porous and can stain, but not to the extreme everyone thinks.

This is usually how mold issues begin in showers with or without steam.

Now, if the steam shower was constantly used, then it is possible the marble tile could become saturated.

You should apply a quality sealer to white marble in the shower to prevent rust stains.

Sealers are used primarily to prevent stains in the marble tile.

Sealing the grout will help but it’s cracks and voids in grout that usually are responsible.

How many times should we apply the sealer to our marble?

Color, pattern, and integrity of that particular marble (or granite or any natural stone) is what determines quality.

And it’s probably honed marble which is more absorbent than a polished finish.

Water should take even longer to absorb after the second coat.

What would be the best method to apply the sealer on both areas?

Spray on and then use the paint brush to spread around if needed.

Again, steam just wears more on the stone if it is heavily used and may require more frequent sealing.

But if you cannot let the shower dry out before sealing, then yes consider not sealing it or seal all tiles prior to grouting.

I did the water test you suggested and it’s fine everywhere else in the bathroom except the shower area where it gets absorbed.

We installed a tile in linear drain and it’s gorgeous.

We applied two coats on the shower floor area and one on the remaining floors which is also the same material.

A day later the shower floor was four shades darker than the floors around it.

We stopped using the shower and waited two weeks for it to return to its normal state.

We used the shower for the first time again yesterday, and nothing has changed.

We don’t know what to do except believe this is the nature of the stone?

Water can absorb into stone and then evaporate without issue.

However, marble really isn’t that porous to begin with and if it was properly sealed no water should be absorbing.

The key seems that there was some delay in the stone darkening after use.

If it took until the next day to see it darken, then it is likely water is absorbing through the tile from underneath.

My guess is that it will take forever to absorb and darken (if it does at all).

But the shower floor must be completely dry and back to normal color first.

Time how long it takes to darken the stone in both locations and note any differences to give you clues to the nature and source of the problem.

For instance sealing marble kitchen countertops is usually a good idea.

On the other hand, some marbles, granites and other stones are naturally dense, stain-resistant and don’t need sealing.

This is very helpful in areas like the kitchen, dining room, or high-use floors or countertops in a bathroom.

You’d have to leave a leaky bottle of something sitting on the marble tile for it to ever have a chance of staining.

However, in a case where water gets behind the tiles of a sealed shower (from cracks or voids in grout or caulk), it will block evaporation potentially making damage a lot worse.

Meaning the tiles and the iron deposits must be exposed to water over an extended period of time or from a continuous source.

First, marble is not that absorbent and water would have to be on the surface for quite a long time (maybe 15-30 minutes or more) before it even starts to absorb.

Also, since tiles are never really submerged in water in a shower, it is typically absorbed only into the surface (if at all), doesn’t saturate the tile and dries quickly.

Floors, benches and shelves are at greater risk for rust stains in white marble showers since water is left standing on these surfaces allowing more time to absorb and potentially oxidize embedded iron deposits.

No periodic re-sealing is necessary as is required with all other sealers.

You can spot this problem as the shower tiles will start to turn gray or darker.

What happens is the water behind the tile absorbs into the tile and darkens it.

Often you’ll see that half of the wall tile is gray or darker.

Dense, low-absorbency stones (like polished marble) typically do not need sealing and often “cannot” be sealed because the sealer won’t absorb.

The result is wasted time, effort and money and a streaky sealer residue on the stone.

We really like this product and highly recommend it.

Better to repair first, but you can always re-apply a sealer to any spots where etch marks were repaired.

He may be a steam shower expert but possibly he does not know marble.

Well, this myth has been created because people confuse two different issue with marble as if they are the same.

People think “etching” is the same as “staining” and conclude that “marble stains easily” and therefore, must be very porous.

Water will not readily pass through the marble tile itself into the wood studs and wall creating a mold issue.

It would take hours of constant water exposure for the tile to become saturated with water and pass moisture out the back side into the walls.

The grout lines are much more vulnerable to water penetration.

Cracks in grout allow water behind the tiles and mold develops.

So, it is important that the shower can effectively dry out between uses.

White marble has embedded iron deposits that can rust from water exposure causing stains on the marble.

But 5 minutes is common and easily managed and improved by applying a sealer.

Use a spray bottle to apply the sealer also trying to create a thin film for the stone to absorb.

Of course, you need to let the sealer absorb for 3-5 minutes, but then wipe all excess off and buff dry completely.

The tiles cover roughly two feet of wall between the top of the shower and the ceiling as well as the surrounding walls to the floor.

The reason is to prevent the grout color from bleeding into the tile creating a dark “picture frame” around the tile edges.

It’s just not really necessary in most cases and can potentially lead to a greater problem.

He cannot return to inspect for a few weeks, will mold become a problem if we wait this long?

Note that we can only speculate at possible problems based on the info we are presented.

However, the difference in the water test between the shower floor and all the other marble is definitely a clue that your installer should consider when trying to figure this out.

We ripped up the old shower floor and constructed the new shower with a curbless entry.

The installer instructed us to use 511 impregnate sealer on the floor prior to use.

After the 72 hour time frame, we used our brand new spa shower.

Stunned and saddened as we noticed they didn’t go back to their “normal” dry color.

We were instructed by our tile installer to go over that area with two more coats of 511, which we did.

The honed marble is dark again, and it doesn’t return to its normal shade.

The installer used shouter water proofing system and white thinset.

With a new install you shouldn’t have cracks in the grout but there may be a problem with the plumbing, shower pan, or drain that is causing water to accumulate under the tiles.

It will darken the stone, but then disappear once evaporated.

If water was absorbing from the surface you’d see that within 30 minutes of use.

Spill some water on the bathroom floor outside the shower and see what happens.

Try the same (let a puddle of water absorb) inside the shower for comparison.

And don’t let any water down the drain as this may be the point where water is getting under the tile.

After reading tons of articles about to seal or not to seal marble, this article explains best about what to do.

I have done that (511 porous plus), its not on the walls yet.

10 Things You Should Never Wear When Traveling Abroad by smartertravel.com

As a general rule, travelers should cover their shoulders and knees when entering any church or holy site to avoid unwanted stares or being denied entry.

When in doubt, stick to long sleeves, and men, keep that chest hair concealed.

Since there’s probably no need to impress anyone that much on your trip abroad, leave the valuables at home.

If you’re traveling anywhere but a beach, it’s generally wise to stick with closed-toe shoes, which can help prevent insect bites or cuts on your toes from gravelly surfaces.

Consider reserving your khaki shorts for beaches, parks, tennis clubs and hiking trails.

There’s no need to unintentionally spark an emotional debate while on vacation.

If you must, wear them under your clothes so they’re not visible to anyone.

You want to blend in, not draw unwanted attention to yourself (and nothing does that better than a neon green tank top).

Baggy or ripped jeans are frowned upon in some cultures, and they may look disrespectful if you wear them into churches, mosques or other holy sites.

Any kind of backpack, big or small, may mark you as a tourist.

Not only do you stand out, but you may a lso get targeted by thieves.

Beyond watching what you wear, there are a few other things you can do to make yourself look like less of a tourist when traveling abroad.

Sometimes even more important than how we look is what we sound like.

Keep your sound level low and your speech polite, though this suggestion can certainly be applied to travel anywhere, even within your own home town.

This will help you avoid causing offense to locals or becoming a target to thieves.

Revealing dresses and cleavage-bearing necklines are also huge no-nos.

It’s also not a bad idea to leave religious jewelry, even cross necklaces, at home.

If you’re traveling abroad to a warm and/or rainy climate, consider alternatives to jeans; they don’t breathe well and take a long time to dry, making them impractical for many itineraries.

They’re also easy to reach into and steal from if you’re wearing one on your back on a busy bus or train.

Nothing screams tourist like a camera permanently hanging from your neck.

Carry a camera or smartphone that you can fit into your small bag.

For one, look like you know what you’re doing and where you’re going, even if you have to fake it.

Be wary of hand gestures, both making them and wearing clothing depicting them, because these can have different meanings depending on where you are.

Since you may never know what certain images suggest in another country, avoid them to keep from offending anyone.

How To Keep Out Unwanted Guests At Family Funerals by wehavekids.com

The bride and groom, bride and bride, or groom and groom (and possibly their parents) get to choose who does and doesn’t share the special day.

If you are in the position of planning a funeral or memorial service for a loved one, you have a lot to do in a short amount of time.

What if the person you don’t want at the funeral is an immediate family member?

Make the funeral (typically a religious ceremony) open, but make the interment (burial) for family only.

Announce the death with a notation that the funeral is private.

Then, you can decide on a case-by-case basis who you want to invite.

If your loved one was so popular that 350 people might show up to bid him/her adieu, it may not be financially feasible to invite them all out to eat afterwards.

You’ll probably capture more of the audience this way as they don’t have to get in their cars and drive somewhere.

This way, you will lose some (or all) churchgoers to attrition.

In short, you will end up with a smaller group for the after-party.

Here are some of my thoughts and ideas on the subject based, of course, on an all-too-real situation in my own family.

You can’t count on estranged family members to behave in a predictable or rational manner.

They may feel like this is their last chance to make peace with the deceased by either offering forgiveness or seeking it.

They show up so that no one can later accuse them of not being there.

There is no disputing that this is the best for all concerned.

Understand that he/she is a broken, damaged soul in need of forgiveness and treat him/her like any other guest.

But, of course, by the time we’re planning her funeral, my mother-in-law will only be with us in spirit.

It would be a challenge, but it’s nothing like the challenge my “dear” sister-in-law has put us through already!

That is now tradition, and we see no reason to break with it.

Since the family church no longer exists (it was sold), and my mother-in-law has no affiliation with any other church, we’d have to shop for a place to hold her funeral.

Our hope is that we can invite the family pastor (assuming he’s still with us when the time comes) to our house for a memorial service.

I am doubly sorry that in your time of sorrow you have to think about such a crazy idea as banning your own family member from the funeral!

And unless you know the full story of each family, there is no comprehension from an outsider what the actual breakdown was in the family.

They have shown no respect for her losing her husband, their father!

It will mean my children are finally safe from her trying to get her claws into them.

For everyone practicing evil hates the light and does not come to the light, lest his deeds should be exposed.

We both decided not to attend because it would be disrespectful as a funeral is to celebrate someone’s life and not cause stress for people who wanted to do that and say goodbye to her.

Estrangement has been running through our family for at least one generation.

Both myself and my sister have started to come to terms with our abuse and now understand that the family has been through a lot of trauma.

My feeling is that unfortunately, estrangement is far more common than we realise.

She also behaved this way towards my older sister but was also physically violent too and would beat her.

She shares her personal experiences and opinions in helpful and often amusing ways.

When planning a wedding, it’s easy to ban unwanted family members — simply don’t invite them.

Anyone and everyone who knew the deceased could come and pay their respects.

If there have been estrangements, feuds, or tensions within the family, you have those to contend with as well.

Make the funeral ceremony open, but make the after-party invitation only, and disassociate the interment (if applicable) from the day’s activities.

Publish the obituary after the funeral and interment have already occurred.

Have a memorial service scheduled some distance in the future.

Each of these suggestions has its pros and cons — especially number five because the last thing you will feel like doing while trying to grieve your loved one is to try to remember who you did or didn’t speak to and who you did or didn’t tell about the memorial service.

Neither of them put any caveats on who could or could not come to their funerals.

Of course, not everyone who comes to the ceremony will have the time/inclination to go to lunch.

You will then lose some of the cemetery-goers, especially if the drive to the ceremony is long and the interment service is drawn out.

Remember, you can make the interment private, thus cutting your ultimate number down to a couple dozen or fewer.

I am genuinely curious to hear how others have handled this or plan to handle this when the time comes.

You can hope that the person in question “honors” their previous estrangement and stays away of their own accord, but this is risky.

There’s a reason the word “strange” is embedded in estrangement!

They may see the funeral as an opportunity to either vindicate themselves or atone for their past behavior.

They attend to spite the other family members to whom they are also estranged.

This typically is financially motivated (read: inheritance) and has nothing whatsoever to do with their feelings (or lack thereof) for the deceased.

Not being an estranged family member myself, it’s difficult for me to think like a black sheep who would crash someone’s funeral.

For whatever reason, you choose not to exclude him/her from your loved one’s funeral.

Realize how difficult the estrangement must have been on him/her all this time.

My mother-in-law has made it patently clear that she does not want anything to do with her daughter.

I think it’s safe to say that if she were alive, she would not want to see her daughter at her funeral.

So we will be interpreting her wishes and adding a healthy — or unhealthy — dose of our own injured feelings.

Accordingly, it is a safe assumption that the wayward daughter wouldn’t dare show her face at my door.

We have also tossed around the idea of forgoing a church service entirely.

Whether you invite the universe or keep things private; spend lavishly or go the simple route; include or exclude certain people, do it from your heart.

You need to be aware of the circumstances surrounding why these people are banned from the funeral.

My ex extended family were evil to me in such a gross way that they were cruel to my immediate family and disrespected us all in the same way and the crescending part was when they laughed, ridiculed and mocked my youngest sister’s internment and that was the very last straw for me.

It will be a day of relief for me, knowing that the bile and narcissistic contempt she heaped on me throughout her life will have finally come to an end.

She has never made any upper to pay this money back it’s only been a year.

I cannot stop thinking about my mum, and it’s been a very hard process so far.

Therefore, they won’t be able to relate to what we feel or think because that’s not the person they know.

I also learned this week from my sister that we have a history of mental illness in our family.

We’re angry, but also very saddened by the fact that nobody stepped in because what we experienced growing up has affected us for our entire lives.

I don’t think anyone chooses estrangement lightly, myself and my sister certainly didn’t.

We are currently not on speaking terms and even when we were, he never made the effort to visit me and my family, when we go back home at least once a year.

He’d only be there to make himself feel better, not because he really cares.

It was a difficult choice to make, but it was not the first time we had been estranged.

She also continued this abuse throughout my 20’s, 30’s, and some of my 40’s.

Holidays and The In Laws by focusonthefamily.com

If it’s your family’s tradition to take a drive to see the changing autumn leaves, for instance, don’t hesitate to mention it.

If the two of you were raised in different countries or cultures, what holidays could you learn more about?

Consider how your parents and other relatives may wish to have you involved.

Try to be open to the desires of family members—but not controlled by them.

For instance, you might invite relatives to gather at your place instead of agonizing over which ones to visit.

Despite the usefulness of these steps, holiday observances still can be an emotional minefield for couples and in-laws.

Share openly with them some of your ideas and hopes for holiday times, letting them know that you value being with them.

Wishful thinking generally leads to hurt feelings and disappointments.

On the contrary, these factors often become more pronounced under stress—and most holidays provide plenty of that.

There may be no specific right and wrong ways for families to spend the holidays together, but there could be better ways for you to approach holiday traditions and expectations.

Balance the development of your own traditions with those of the homes you came from.

Talk ahead of time with your spouse, discussing solutions and compromises before the in-laws arrive.

The only problem, now that you’re married, is whose mom and dad’s celebration of the holidays you’re going to adopt.

Premarital counseling may be the best place to start addressing this question; it’s frequently covered in that setting.

Include major national holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, and other occasions that are special to you.

Agree on how you as a couple would like to establish your own holiday traditions.

Flexibility and variation can help to avoid hard feelings when the in-laws’ expectations aren’t met.

You might even take a vacatio n during the holidays to add variety and break the cycle of expectations.

Develop realistic expectations of how the holidays should be spent.

Personality differences, physical limitations, and philosophical disagreements don’t disappear just because a particular date on the calendar has arrived.

Keep the focus on time spent together rather than amount of money spent.

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